The Low-Down on Self-Talk

Self-Talk Matters If you heard an adult speaking to a child, calling that child names such as ‘moron,’ ‘stupid,’ or ‘idiot’ you would likely get highly and righteously upset and take action. This would be considered emotional or mental abuse. Depending on your nature you might directly confront or you might call CPS or some other authority, but I doubt many of you would just passively let it slide. Why is it then that eyebrows aren’t raised if that same adult directs such language toward themselves? Why is it that we accept self-denigration and why would we say such things to ourselves? Psychologists and other mental health professionals believe that the child from which we grew never really grows up, but lives inside of us, always needing love, nurturing, and support. If that is true, and I believe it is, then this type of rhetoric is never ok.

Let’s go back to that kid in the 1st paragraph. A child on the receiving end of an adult telling him/her that he/she is an idiot or stupid or a moron or can’t do anything right will likely cower in fear, cry in shame and humiliation, or hide if at all possible. Over time with repeat abuse that child will probably respond with anger and defensive. This child will eventually learn to go emotionally numb in order to avoid the pain of the wound this kind of stinging rhetoric has on the soul. You as an adult are really no different than that child.  Directing stinging barbs at yourself when you aren’t perfect does nothing to hone your own perfection. On the contrary, it erodes your beautiful childlike and perfect nature, clouding the knowledge of the infinite being you are.

Words are more than collections of sound or (digital) ink on a page. Words are symbols of the energy of ideas and thoughts. This is why words have so much power: they are capsules of energy. And it is energy that creates our physical reality. Negative self-talk has a damaging effect not only on the mind and spirit, but also on the body. On an emotional/mental/spiritual level it is likely to produce poor self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and lack of motivation.

Because the mental, emotional, psychological, spiritual, energetic, and physical systems are all linked together and are not the separate parts we imagine them to be, a problem in one of these aspects of our being will drastically affect our other systems. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen patients with sciatic pain in my practice that repeatedly use the phrase “pain in the butt.” I also noticed that a chronic migraine patient repeatedly referred to life’s annoyances as ‘headaches.’

Am I saying that we bear responsibility for our own illnesses and dis-ease? Actually, I am, but I am not implying that we should divorce ourselves from compassion for others or for ourselves. No one knowingly wishes illness or injury upon themselves. I believe we do this out of an ignorance of the power of our words to create our reality.

I hear you thinking, “But what about injury or trauma as a cause for a dysfunction?” Yes, I think we bear some responsibility for that as well. These powerful words don’t program the body directly; they program the energy fields and the mind. They set up conditions under which disease, illness, injury and discomfort can exist and thrive. Words are power

You might think of these thought forms that words create as programs and of our bodies as the hardware. You might also guess from that last sentence that I have a background in the tech industry and you would guess correctly! As a network administrator I learned quickly that the problem with computers wasn’t so much the hardware, but the programs that ran on them. When the programs were poorly written and took up a lot of resources they tended to be poorly behaved and caused the hardware (the physical bits of a computer you can touch) to stop responding. This resulted in a lot of restarting the system and in some cases in a steady stream of profanity from those affected. Carrying this metaphor forward, by programming our bodies with negative self-talk and therefore damaging thought forms, we are setting up the conditions under which those “crashes” can take place more easily.

So how does this all work? You are an infinite being in a body. Surrounding this dense physical body are layers of energy that are part of you. Within these energies are the thought forms that are created by self-talk, the words used to communicate with others, personal beliefs, and the things you hold dear. You are connected to God/Source/The Universal Field and Q/Energy from this Source flows down to your physical body through the energy fields. On its’ way to you it passes through the thought forms in the energy bodies and, based on the ‘programming’ the thought forms hold, creates the reality you experience.

Thoughts create realityThis is where the news gets good. Whatever ‘programming’ you have written into these energy fields, whatever thought forms you hold there, will create your reality. If your reality is filled with suffering and pain, part of what you can do to change that is to change those thought forms. While it can take some time to change your reality if you’ve been living with the same programming for a very long time, changing the wording you use and your self-talk will alter the experience you are having in this body.

Start by becoming aware of what you are saying to yourself, what wording you use when you talk to others, and what you believe about yourself and your experience in this world. You move forward by changing the wording you use when communicating to yourself and to others. Over time this can change your beliefs about yourself and your relationship with your world and your reality. It’s not easy and it takes persistence, but in the end it can be the difference between enduring and thriving.

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